Tuesday, April 19

Express Yourself and Shine!


Yes, this has been my website name for a LONG time because it felt right. Now I am owning it. I am stepping into the creation of workshops for women. - for ladies, gals, tiara wearing princesses, yoga pant wearing females, moms, mums, grandmoms - I want to help them all open up to more joy, laughter and even vulnerability.

I have been wondering daily for years, if today’s me is who I will be tomorrow, next week, in 6 months or in 5 years.  I am always searching for who I truly am.  I participate in on-line classes, attend workshops, read all manner of self-discovery books and subscribe to way more newsletters than I could ever have time to fully absorb. I do these things with the underlying goal of becoming a better person yes, but also hoping to uncover what it is I was meant to do or be in this lifetime (yes I am one of those who believes that we live many times – practicing until we get it right).  For a long while I have thought that there is one thing out there waiting for me to do it or find it in order to fulfill my soul’s purpose. Consistently and constantly I have been searching for that one thing.

However, I also believe that we surge through different stages in our life, along with our many different ages. Obviously as wee ones, our soul purpose was different than it is now But that underlying love of play should remain consistent within us – but that’s a different topic!

SO here’s my little aha moment. you all probably knew this, but it has come as a gradual realization into my body. We don’t just have to do ONE thing (at a time or ever) to fulfill our purpose. Some folks do and that’s super cool that they have found something that works for them, feeds their soul, their bank account, their being. Most of us, not so much. Throughout my years, I have had many careers and jobs and have participated in a myriad of volunteer opportunities. As life moves forward and we grow and morph, often our purpose shifts.

HOWEVER I also believe that at the very essence of our beings, the core of our soul ,   we know what we have always loved to do. We know what lights us up and brings a smile to our face and a lift to our heart. The things we have done that have moved us forward, that have floated our boat, kept us sane, filled us with light –those are the qualities and attributes that have been with us since birth and never depart. Those qualities should remain with us in each of the different stages/jobs/tasks in life.

As I was interviewed today by the fabulous Ronnie Joy Krasner, (www.TheMidlifeDatingCoach.com) I realized that everything I have done up until now has been on task. I have been fulfilling my purpose at every stage of life. It has kind of remained the same.  Basically, trying to make people happy.  Now it is through empowering women of a certain age! (“cuz that’s where I am!)

I love hearing people laugh at something I said, or seeing a smile on someone’s face when they realize they really are beautiful and CAN step out and own their own personal style.

I guess what I’m saying to any of you reading this is - own everything you have done up until now – all of your efforts in life have brought you to this point. Don’t stop, keep going and learning and growing. If you don’t know what it is you were meant to do, take a look at your life and realize you have most likely already done it, or are in the midst of it or can do it.

Yup, I rambled and thanks for reading.

Meanwhile if you or someone you know wants to “Unleash their Inner Diva and Shine”, let me know and I’ll guide you with laughter and joy!

Wednesday, February 3

It's February - How are those resolutions going?

What does February say to you? Bleak and gloomy in most parts of the country (and

some of the world), it’s kind of an in between month. In my brain I see the months as

having a color. Weird right?  Always have. February is icy blue. Crystalline and actually

sparkling. (I like my bling!) It’s like a snowflake if I had to find an object to describe this

month. February brings us one step closer to warmer and longer days regardless of 

what my weather app (or the outside rain) tells me.

For many, Feb can be kind of depressing, and Seasonal Affective Disorder rages in.

WHAT do we do to counteract this? Short of buying a sun lamp, or heading south, we

need to conjure up our own version of warmth and open our hearts to positivity. If you

didn’t accomplish your goals last month, it’s time to sparkle on and think about what’s

next.  I’m all about taking a teeny tiny step towards whatever it is that soars in your soul.

OR perhaps a teeny tiny step to clean out your closet, garage, make up bag!

It’s also telling to figure out why you didn’t get to those things on your list of resolutions.

Were you making them just because of peer pressure? Well guess what?  NO ONE

expects you to do any of that this month. SOOOOO…..maybe it’s time to take a tiny step

in the direction of something YOU truly want instead of the cutting back on carbs, or

stopping the nightly wine….the things that perhaps others think are good goals. Time

maybe for a tiny step towards something you really truly want. A new hairstyle?  Google

celebs you admire. Cleaner house?  One drawer at a time. New career? One visit to

Linked-in a day.

Brief aside here - I learned all about teeny tiny steps when I became certified as a Kaizen-Muse Creativity Coach a few years ago. (Jill Badonsky www.themuseisin.com I don’t know how to credit her properly, hope this does it. Thank you Jill!)

 Taking baby steps is the Kaizen way. Japanese in origin, Kaizen means continuous

improvement through small steady steps.  I am not a practicing creativity coach, but

becoming certified opened my eyes as to how I act and react and gave me tools to move

me through times when I am stuck. One of the most important tools is taking small steps.

I find this particularly helpful right about now in the year. I get frustrated because I have

so many great ideas, things I want to accomplish – a you tube channel talk show, events

for women with The Three Tomatoes, growing my J Hilburn (men’s custom clothing)

team, along with nourishing myself and my family. WHOA, overwhelming. For some

reason February hits me that way. SO, what do I do….

Teeny tiny steps…..that’s how I move on. Does that bring me what I need to get through

the second month of the year?  Why yes, yes it does. Every day I make my list and focus

on one thing I absolutely am determined to accomplish. The list is looooong. However, I

circle the one thing I know I can get done, or want to do, and once it is completed, I shout

hooray, do a happy dance and USUALLY move on to finishing a few other tasks as well.

THAT makes me sparkle!   The Jordin Sparks song, “One Step at a Time” is ringing in

my ears at the moment. (it’s a good one, download it!) One step a time won’t make the

blues of winter go away, but if you put some fun and uplifting tasks on your own list, and

celebrate YOU when you complete something, February may become your favorite


Friday, January 1

It's the New YEAR! Let's PRETEND!

Hey so let's forget about New Year, New YOU!  We can have a NEW US every single day. All we have to do is wake up and say.....hello world, I'm going to reinvent myself today and be the best me possible. 

HAHAHA, sometimes it's hard to do that. So I am going to pretend every day. Pretend that I feel great, even when I feel a bit less than. I am going to PRETEND that I have my own You Tube interview show called Conversations with Kim, or some other really clever title. I am going to PRETEND that I am fabulously wealthy and can travel first class to visit all my friends. I am going to PRETEND that I have adventures lined up which will energize me, delight me, inspire me and lead me to the greatest heights imaginable.

How about you?

Here is my poetic attempt to wish you all the best for a SPECTACULAR 2016!  YOU (WE) deserve it!

It’s happened again, another year gone by
So much we accomplished and if not, why?

Were there thrilling adventures that fed your soul?
Conversations with old friends? Oh so droll?

Did you meet new peeps that became part of your tribe?
Who made you laugh and feel oh so alive?

I did  - so grateful, you know who you are,
Sending love to each of you near and far.

Perhaps this new year will find you searching
And you will land on a mountain top, silently perching
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Looking within as you search for your path
Or the answers may come as you soak in a bath,

Wherever you go may discoveries abound,

Bringing peace and laughter and a love that astounds!